Waiting For Love

I love music, and I am a lyrics freak. This means that when I hear a song my mind automatically zeroes in on the lyrics, not the beat. If I cannot pick them up immediately I Google them. And then, cue psychoanalysis.

Why is she singing that? Does he really believe what he is saying or is he just singing what’s popular? Who wrote this song? Maybe someone else wrote the song? I wonder what happened in the writer’s life that caused these feelings? I wonder what her family situation is like? I wonder what is happening to his kids, are they being raised like this? I wish I could help her. I wish I could kick him somewhere that would take care of all these sexual needs he sings about.

Yep, I am a weird one. Analyzing the human mind, accompanying emotional structures and potential contributing life factors is fascinating to me. So song lyrics are a playground.

Recently I was listening to the popular “Waiting For Love” by Avicii, and it struck me that the feelings and mindset described in this catchy song dominate so many hearts today. They describe what we are taught from an early age in Societal Love 101 to believe and hope for, but the map given to us leads straight to disappointment and heartache. It’s a cyclical burden of confusion and despair that my heart, for one, is very familiar with.

“…And if there’s love in this life, there’s no obstacle
That can’t be defeated…

Monday left me broken
Tuesday I was through with hoping
Wednesday my empty arms were open
Thursday waiting for love, waiting for love
Thank the stars it’s Friday
I’m burning like a fire gone wild on Saturday
Guess I won’t be coming to church on Sunday
I’ll be waiting for love, waiting for love
To come around

…I’ll be waiting for love, waiting for love
To come around”

Lies infused with just enough truth to taste validity. If life were a movie, this could play on repeat in the background as we continue to watch more marriages crumble, hearts break, and dreams of “happily ever after” shatter before they even begin. We are taught to depend on love, and therefore the giver of love, for everything. But this is a weight that no human was created to bear. That’s why God offers us the free gift of unconditional love and everything else this world fails to give us.

How many of us are familiar with the heart schedule Avicii lays out?

Monday left me broken. 

Broken, empty. Again.

Tuesday I was through with hoping

Sick of hoping. Did we hope for too much? Maybe we are what is too much for someone else? Either way, we must be doing something wrong, again.

Wednesday my empty arms were open

Open arms that must compromise standards to receive someone who wants us.

Thursday waiting for love, waiting for love

Waiting for that person to turn into someone who actually cares about us.

Thank the stars it’s Friday

If they do really care, or if we can pretend they do, we get a break from heartache or loneliness; just like a Friday, thankful to be on the verge of temporary freedom, however short-lived.

I’m burning like a fire gone wild on Saturday

High on the idea of a cloud we have created with the smoke we are holding. Or maybe it’s the burn that’s so unbearable we decide to jump into the ever-growing bucket of ice cold hearts that would love to feed that burn for a night. Who cares about consequences. There’s a chance one of them goes to church, right?

Guess I won’t be coming to church on Sunday

Guilt, sadness, preoccupation with convincing the illusion to value us, or “starting over”. Church will just have to wait. Priority number one is figuring out how to get this pain to go away

I’ll be waiting for love, waiting for love to come around

Waiting. Waiting for a love that we are pretty sure doesn’t exist. Not for us, at least. How is everyone else on Instagram finding what we can’t even come close to touching?

Heart-wrenching, isn’t it? I would be lying if I said the doors to each phase of this exhausting cycle don’t still catch my eye as they swing on their somehow tempting hinges. The most heartbreaking part of all of this though, is that so many of us don’t realize, or maybe we forget, that we are offered complete fulfillment of these desires and more…for free. God offers to pick up the broken pieces, catch us in HIS open arms, quench our longing and satisfy our loneliness, at no cost other than the acceptance of His son’s death that took place in order that we might have all of this!  But, just like the song says, it’s often the last place we look for it.

The truth is, there is a love in this life that can overcome any obstacle. There is something to believe in that makes us unstoppable. There’s a way to be indestructible, and the cure for blindness is only a belief away.

But none of it can be done on our own, and none of it can be found in another person.

God created each of us with a void on purpose. A void that only He can fill. There is nothing wrong with feeling that void, we must feel it in order to know it’s there and to realize the need for it to be filled. But no person, place, or thing will ever be able to completely satisfy our needs on those deepest levels, because they simply were not made to.

Can I challenge you, along with myself, to accept that gift of fulfillment today?

“whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” John 4:14

Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28

If anyone thirsts, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, ‘Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water.’” John 7:37-38

Come, everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and he who has no money, come, buy and eat!
Come, buy wine and milk without money and without price.
Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your labor for that which does not satisfy?
Listen diligently to me, and eat what is good, and delight yourselves in rich food.
Incline your ear, and come to me; hear, that your soul may live; and I will make with you an everlasting covenant, my steadfast, sure love…” Isaiah 55:1-3

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